In light of Don Miller's "A Million Miles in a Thousand Years," I realized that I have trouble remembering. It gets hazy around 5 years old, and even then, I can only recall a couple events. Now, I don't have a long-term memory problem, but if I feel as if I don't write my life down, I won't think twice about it. And honestly, I can't think of that many things happening this past year, so I hope this will show me how I can live a more meaningful life.Plus, when I die, then I'll have stuff to talk to God about because right now, I think we'd have like an hour tops.
Of course, one of the biggest obstacles toward casual dating is the inevitable “ending.” So many of us equate kindness with never saying anything hard to anyone. In truth, kindness is not about passivity. Kindness is honoring someone in your treatment of them, but kindness is also honoring them by ending a dating relationship if needed.
haha, even when she says no… :D
(via etiquetteforagentleman)
LOL
you know, some of these aren’t half bad…
I get it. Who wants to be crushed.
But I think that we are going about it the wrong way.
The time to guard your heart is BEFORE you get into a relationship.
Cause let me tell you, the books may say that he or she is gonna wait for the guard to take a vacation, but it’s probably not gonna happen.
In order to experience the truth of relational bliss you actually have to GIVE your heart.
Not guard it.You have to open your chest wide, expose all the nerve endings inside of you, and be ready to either find the fullness of the satisfaction of true love or the burial of utter and total rejection.
And let me tell you, both of those make you truly alive as opposed to existing.So open up your chest, past any aspect of self, close your eyes, sprint, feel the wind rushing past your heart, and when you finally find him or her…
You will curse me for the heartache before them…
But you will thank me for the truth of the fullness you have found.
And you will never find it with guard dogs and snipers.
You may find a safe existing love, but you really don’t want that.Be Alive In Your Search.
Feel It All.
It’s better that way.
I’d agree… we’ve misconstrued what “guarding your heart” means, and instead, it’s become a sort of isolating yourself or faking yourself. Yet, even though this mostly applies to single people before they start dating… guarding your heart does come into play when you realize that being together will not last forever and break up is always a possibility…
It was our one year anniversary on 11/11/11! =) But, we didn’t go to Rockport, haha… this was on her 21st birthday :P
Instead, on Thursday, we went to the Boston Ballet to see Romeo & Juliet, which was surprisingly entertaining because I forgot that people don’t talk during ballets, haha… And, I didn’t know ballet people acted! I just thought they danced like in Black Swan. We also had dinner at a small restaurant called Teatro, and I ordered my first drink there :P The food was delicious, and the vibe was great!
Finally, after the ballet, we went to Wonderbar to see Liz for her 21st! This was also my first time at a bar lol… shoot, come to think of it, I guess I had a lot of firsts! And, it’s my first in having a relationship :) and I’m looking forward to another year!
P.S. Gosh I haven’t updated tumblr about my life in such a long time… perhaps I’ve moved on because that one year journal has shown me how to live life better. Now that I think of it, soon after I started this blog, I had the idea of pursuing the girl (probably because I needed to take risks!), and by the end of the year, I had a girlfriend! Weeeeirrdddd, but in a good way =)
The title is pretty cheesy, but the tagline says it all: “Why successful relationships are dependent on sacrifice.” And, it’s not going to be glamorous, unless you’re on reality tv, haha.
No, deep down people still really want to be in love and stay in love.
But to make this happen, we’ve got to start living with intentionality. What does it mean to be intentional in love, and why is it seriously vital to the health and longevity of all types of romantic relationships?
The word “intentional” is defined as, “to be done on purpose; deliberate.”
Often there isn’t purpose in love. So many people think a healthy relationship should exist in a carefree and easy manner. And as soon as things become laborious, we peace out and try to find happiness with someone else.
But as our generation is beginning to understand, this mindset does not lead to love that lasts. Long-term relationships are difficult, as two people purposefully and intentionally live out unconditional love in word and deed. If you say you want to commit to another person, whether it be dating, engagement or marriage, you will have to act out that commitment on a day-to-day basis.
such wisdom… haha.
