Psychology, biology, sociology have sought to explore the nature of man. And yet man remains an enigma. — Abraham Heschel, “Who Is Man?”
The Darker Regions of the Soul
So, this snippet comes from a book I’m reading: Wild at Heart by John Eldredge
I hope you’re getting the picture by now. If a man does not find those things for which his heart is made, if he is never even invited to live for them from his deep heart, he will look for them in some other way. Why is pornography the number one snare for men? A man longs for beauty, but without his fierce and passionate heart, he cannot find her or win her or keep her. Though he is powerfully drawn to the woman, he does not know how to fight for her or even that he is to fight for her. Rather, he finds her mostly a mystery that he knows he cannot solve, and so at a soul level, he keeps his distance. And privately, secretly, he turns to the imitation. What makes pornography so addictive is that more than anything else in a lost man’s life, it makes him feel like a man without ever requiring a thing of him. The less a guy feels like a real man in the presence of a real woman, the more vulnerable he is to porn.
And so, a man’s heart driven to the darker regions of the soul, denied the very things he most deeply desires, comes out in darker places. Now, a man’s struggles, his wounds and addictions, are a bit more involved than that, but those are the core reasons. As the poet George Herbert warned, “He begins to die, that quits his desires.” And you know what? We all know it. Every man knows that something’s happened, something’s gone wrong…we just don’t know what it is.
I think I’ve found a beauty worth pursuing, worth fighting for. Oh boy. Oh boy. Oh boy. Now that’s a story!